Muse: to reflect, contemplate, to
meditate in silence on some subject.
We are taught how to acquire things,
not what to do when we lose them.
We live in a consumer-based culture. It seems we are always trying to acquire more…more status, more success, more adventures, more relationships, more things. As if acquiring more defines who we are. As if this “more” can keep us from feeling less, keep us from feeling loss. Learning to lose things teaches us about the gifts of impermanence. It teaches us that nothing lasts forever and that tomorrow isn’t promised. So we learn to live more in the present, to appreciate the small things, to cherish each and every moment, to take nothing for granted. Learning to lose things rather than always acquiring things stretches our hearts open so we can take in all that this life has to offer. May we remember that we are not alone on this journey as we learn to let our hearts stretch open so we can hold more.
The Written Word
There are many ways to express our grief and putting our thoughts, feelings, and ideas on paper can be a very healing process. The suggested prompts here can be done one time or multiple times. I’ve learned it helps to set a timer for 10-15 minutes and keep your pen moving for the entire time. I encourage using pen and paper rather than a keyboard as there is a hand/heart connection when writing longhand. Don’t worry about spelling, punctuation, or grammar, just write. When the timer goes off you stop writing even if you are in mid-sentence. Don’t reread your work at this time. Just set it aside for a couple of weeks and then go back and see what your words may have to say to you.
(If you choose to use a keyboard the same instructions apply).
Try this writing prompt:
What opportunities has grief given you?
I will list some books, articles, poems, movies, or other resources that I as well as others have found helpful on this grief journey. I hope these resources may deepen your understanding of grief, maybe bring you some sense of comfort, and help you to feel less alone in your grief.